Separation is the fundamental component of the twin flame journey. Either forced by circumstances or caused by any counterpart of the twin flame connection, it is essential to go through it. There is no twin flame journey without separation, because it is the period of preparation for ascension. So, if the first shock did not hit you, you might not be in one of those relationships… if you are okay with separating from your partner, he might not be your twin flame. 

Because we long for our counterparts, we might want to stay strong. However, it is challenging to heal your wounded ego and live a normal life, so we act like it is not there. The pain we feel from separation is the same pain we once experienced after being separated from our source. We are reminded of this connection by every sign and energy we encounter.

In this article I would like to address the main mistakes that will keep you in the separation period. You might not get out of it for years, if not ten or twenty. The purpose of this separation period is very important for you to understand. No matter how enlightened you are…. you can be in it and it is OK…

Following are some common mistakes I have addressed from my clients after working, listening, inspecting, and witnessing for eleven years…

1- Try to cut the cords or ignore the problem at hand to avoid pain.

On the contrary, you need to grieve and cry. It is OK to be sad, lonely, and frustrated… It is OK to feel awful. If you hold all of those feelings inside and pretend that everything is OK and that one man/woman cannot hurt you this much, youmight stay in this longer than usual until you change yourself.

2- Trying to influence him/her or the relationship, finding ways to bring him/her back to you.

Making him jealous with other guys, trying to reach him through social media, or even stalking him, Trying to contact with his best friend, trying to allign your time, schedule and space according to him, turning to an obsessive person etc. Those never worked and it will not work. If you trust and believe in divine timing, the divine timing that brought you together in the first place for a reason is the same power that will enable you to come together again. Nothing has happened to that force…. even if you attempt to push it, it will still be there.

3- Seek revenge or act angry and hateful.

It is ok to be angry to yourself, to your partner or even blame yourself for what happened or him. Maybe it is just a misunderstanding, but there will still be time to solve it. Your partner needs space to sort out his/her issues. In the meantime, you don’t think you have any problems, however, it was your fears and inner restrictions that put you in this position in the first place. For a healthy relationship with your partner, you need to figure out what you need to heal, the people you need to set aside and cut cords with. Do what needs to be done, but do not overreach.

4- Extending yourself in a way that you lose yourself, your values and your preciousnes

Don’t let your energy and values diminish. You are unique and you are the first person to understand and know this, so you can reflect the same to the outer world. Do not compare yourself with other girls in his life or people you see on the street that might or might not have been involved with him. You are his only type. You will be able to sustain your love for him/her if you believe in this and keep the faith. You will lose your significance for some time until you understand your value and will become ordinary like any other person. For him/her as well as this world, planet and humanity.

5- The separation of inner and outer worlds and the assumption that he cannot see or hear your thoughts as long as you act properly outside where you have a muddy inner well and a weedy interior garden.

You need to clean up your thoughts, your mind, your chatter, be the same person in your mind and in your behaviour. Do not jump from one end to the other in seconds. Let the anger out. Do something creative or something that suits you, makes you more yourself. Arts, dancing, sports, writing, speaking, composing… any form of creation will work. The key to attracting him/her is connecting to other people and connecting to your core.

To be continued…..

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